But I Don't Forgive Them: Volume 6, Issue 28, Beha'aloscha
- Jun 5
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June 6, 2026; 21 Sivan, 5786 Sponsored anonymously for the Refuah Shleimah of Yair Nissan Ben Sara
QUESTION: Before I go to sleep, I say “Krias Shema al HaMita” (prayer upon going to sleep for the night). I also say the introductory words to the prayer, "I hereby forgive and absolve anyone who has angered or provoked me or sinned against me, physically or financially or by failing to give me due respect, or in any other matter relating to me, involuntarily or willingly, inadvertently or deliberately, whether in word or deed: let no one incur punishment because of me.”
So what is my question? Before I graduated high school, I had the unfortunate experience of two of my teachers who yelled at me harshly. It left me with a horrible feeling at my graduation and with a very unnerving feeling about my whole education. I feel that they could have made their point without yelling at me. I have tried to forgive them and to move on, but I cannot seem to let go of my resentment. Accordingly, when I say the introductory words of Krias Shema al haMita (“Krias Shema”), I do not feel like I am telling the truth when I declare that I forgive everyone. What should I do?...